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fanfurrias: Oso

Mon, 20 May 2013 20:45:32 -0500

fanfurrias:

Oso

treeroots: the green light by Nancy Carels on Flickr.

Mon, 20 May 2013 07:08:39 -0500

treeroots:

the green light by Nancy Carels on Flickr.

landscapelifescape: Oporto, Portugal Another Working Day by...

Sun, 19 May 2013 16:26:38 -0500

landscapelifescape:

Oporto, Portugal

Another Working Day by Veselin Malinov

Lilacs!!!

Sun, 19 May 2013 15:31:49 -0500

Lilacs!!!

archenland: Tyrolean Valley by Terry Roberts

Sat, 18 May 2013 18:18:48 -0500

archenland:

Tyrolean Valley by Terry Roberts

"I, it is I who comfort you. Can you then fear mortal man, who is human only, to be looked upon as..."

Sat, 18 May 2013 12:18:07 -0500

“I, it is I who comfort you. Can you then fear mortal man, who is human only, to be looked upon as grass, and forget the Lord, your maker, who stretched out the heavens and laid the foundation of the earth?”

- Isaiah 51:12-13 (via kindnessalwaysmatters)

Apparently My Hair Makes People Cry

Fri, 17 May 2013 14:47:00 -0500

Walking from the cafeteria back to my desk, I run into a girl from IT who I know. She is young, small, trim, pretty, has an MBA - one of those annoying people who has everything going for them.

The first thing she says to me is “What have you done to your hair?!”

She’s a prankster. I just shake my head bewildered and wonder what’s coming next.

“You cut all your hair! When did you cut your hair?!”

Other people are now in the hall, attempting to pass between us. They are guys and they do not care about my hair.

I try to tell her I switched to a new place, etc.

Tears are welling up in her eyes. Actual tears.

She seems to be rendered speechless, but then gets out “You look so … so ….”

And I wait with a bit of dread to hear what horrid adjective is to come.

“…so … sassy!”

“I’ll take sassy. Thanks!” I say and move on down the hall.

She cried. It’s been months. But today … the shock of it all overwhelmed her.

Be careful with your haircuts out there. The emotional stability of the world depends upon it.

"Faith, in the sense in which I am here using the word, is the art of holding on to things your..."

Thu, 16 May 2013 19:51:28 -0500

“Faith, in the sense in which I am here using the word, is the art of holding on to things your reason has once accepted, in spite of your changing moods.”

- C.S.Lewis (via tierradentro)

BOOKMARKS

Wed, 15 May 2013 22:47:31 -0500

Bookmark - the critical function which allows you to save all your open pages when your updates WILL NOT WAIT ONE MORE MINUTE.

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Tue, 14 May 2013 13:51:53 -0500

wherevermywhimseytakesme: #Madeleine L’Engle #quotes

Tue, 14 May 2013 13:13:10 -0500

wherevermywhimseytakesme:

#Madeleine L’Engle #quotes

"The fact that a chaotic and ill-educated time cannot clearly grasp the truth does not alter the fact..."

Mon, 13 May 2013 18:27:38 -0500

“The fact that a chaotic and ill-educated time cannot clearly grasp the truth does not alter the fact that it always will be the truth.”

- G. K. Chesterton (via nonjeneregrette)

woodendreams: (by Sarah Marino) Moraine Lake, Banff Alberta...

Sat, 11 May 2013 21:55:00 -0500

woodendreams:

(by Sarah Marino)

Moraine Lake, Banff Alberta Canada

There are days of fear and dread, when the desolation of our souls presses so greatly as to hinder...

Sat, 11 May 2013 12:33:03 -0500

There are days of fear and dread, when the desolation of our souls presses so greatly as to hinder breath.

Dawn birthed another such day and … here … we … sit.

It’s a Wyeth kind of day.

Sat, 11 May 2013 12:03:04 -0500

It’s a Wyeth kind of day.

vintagelibraries: Children reading at George Bruce Library,...

Sat, 11 May 2013 11:50:00 -0500

vintagelibraries:

Children reading at George Bruce Library, NYC (1940)

A pretty good description of what depression is like

Thu, 09 May 2013 19:44:00 -0500

A pretty good description of what depression is like:

Hey Marc! Thanks for this. I agree this is pretty spot on.

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Fri, 03 May 2013 07:21:23 -0500

vurtual: Meteor shower (by Protik Hossain) Perseid meteor...

Wed, 01 May 2013 21:20:36 -0500

vurtual:

Meteor shower (by Protik Hossain)

Perseid meteor shower captured @ Mount Rainier.

I see this and think - these meteors aren’t very organized; they’re all over the place, no consistent path. Looks a bit like the scratches you see on a DVD.

Adulting: Adulting classic: Do not expect "closure", ever, on anything

Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:21:04 -0500

Adulting: Adulting classic: Do not expect "closure", ever, on anything:

adulting:

This is a sad thing to post about, because show me someone who is seeking “closure” and I will show you someone who is not having a Happy Time. But that doesn’t make closure any more of a real thing that exists than, say, kind and gentle unicorns who think you are pretty and are eager to read your unpublished novel.

Because what you mean when you say “closure” is “magical verbal bullet that will make me not feel like shit, even though I’ve just been dumped.” And that, sadly, is not something that exists anywhere in this world.

Here is how you imagine a conversation that will provide “closure” would go:

You: Why did you break up with me?

Person That Broke Your Heart: Because you were too incredible, and way funnier than I am, and I felt like you could fly ever higher once you weren’t weighed down by me. I loved you so much that it felt selfish to spend one more second with you, because you have already brought me five lifetimes’ worth of joy.

You: Oh. Well, when you put it that way.

But if someone were going to be honest about the reasons they broke up with you, here’s how a “closure” conversation would go:

You: Why did you break up with me?

PTBYH: Because I knew I couldn’t stand a lifetime of that humming noise you make when you chew, and I’m tired of having sex with you and want to have sex with other people — people who aren’t you, and who don’t make that humming noise. Also, my mom doesn’t like you.

You: Oh. Well, when you put it that way.

And really, his or her reasons can probably not be verbalized. Think about the last time you broke up with someone without obvious cause (i.e., cheating, substance abuse, etc.) If that person demanded an explanation, could you give one? And would you want to give one? No and no.

So wait for closure if you wish, but you will save yourself a good deal of time and angst by accepting that it doesn’t matter why it didn’t work, only that it didn’t work. Some things will eventually close. Some things will never quite close. In the meantime, all you can focus on is moving forward.